Standing Up

Fifteen years ago, I was hard at work at Legacy.com. Dennis and I were empty-nesters. Mom was doing well in Florida and we had traveled to Washington D.C. to watch our son Will graduate from college.

15 years ago, was also the first televised “Stand Up to Cancer” fund-raiser.

The what? I’ll admit it, It’s inaugural launch passed me by.

Started by Katie Couric, the well-known television news and entertainment personality, Stand Up To Cancer evolved after losing both her husband and her sister from colon and breast cancer, respectively. She understood that cancer research was ongoing, but her personal losses drove her to accelerate the pace of that research.

Photo: National Cancer Institute

As an ex-journalist, she investigated the reasons why research cycles slowed. Funding always plays a role, but it wasn’t just that. She learned that doctors and researchers often end up in silos; busy working on their own ideas and goals instead of collaborating with others. These great minds were not always sharing important information.

So, as she put it, “I gathered a bunch of my Type A friends” to brainstorm on how to change that. They made calls, called in favors, teamed up with doctors and worked hard towards fulfilling a unique goal. Couric added “we wanted to make some noise” about cancer. The result was “Stand Up to Cancer”; a live television event which would, hopefully, raise awareness and funds for cancer prevention and cancer research.

It became a biennial event. Couric pulled strings to arrange for it to air across 50 channels and platforms simultaneously. In the early years, they spaced musical acts between survivor stories and celebrities standing at a microphone wearing the trademark black Stand Up to Cancer T-shirts. Couric knew how to galvanize the entertainment industry for her cause.

After I finally absorbed the back story of Stand Up to Cancer, I wasn’t going to let another show pass me by this year without watching it.

When it started, I’ll admit that I thought I would see two hours of live performances and more of a “telethon” feel. Comedian Jerry Lewis and his famous Muscular Dystrophy fund-raising efforts came to mind. I thought they would include an active money board displaying the amount raised so far. I could not have been more wrong.

It was an intimate setting. People sat at small round tables. Those guests were oncologists, researchers and survivors. Stories from both survivors and researchers played on a big screen on the stage.

Unbeknownst to me, the format changed in 2023. This year would highlight the organization’s “enduring impact at the forefront of innovative and life-saving cancer research.”

“Ok, less entertainment and more education this time; I still want to stick around,” I thought.

In a word, they are remarkable. Since its inception, Couric and her friends have raised over $746 million to bring together over 3,000 of the best scientists from over 210 leading institutions to collaborate. Their research has contributed to the development of nine new cancer therapies approved by the FDA, and over 270 clinical trials treating over 29,300 patients. They talked about how new MRNA vaccines are in development. A vaccine for cancer??? That is crazy.

The show also took time to point out the organization’s goal of lengthening lives too. I think that is an important point. Some cancers are terminal, but these immunotherapies are successfully extending a person’s life by months or years. Family members call that time a gift.

ALL of this does make me stand up. And I mean STAND up. Stand Up to Cancer is making a difference. It makes me think about my own friends and family members who are fighting this fight right now. Mark. Kimiko. Debbie. David. Kathy. I stand for them. I know that readers here have loved one’s facing cancer right now, too, or possibly they may be fighting it themselves.

Sadly, so many have died. I want to stand up and say their names too.

Linda E. Jan A. Lissa M. Beam B. Natalie G. Mary S. Ray T. Richard V. Ray L. Mark L. Kathy R. Ming L. Cliff B. Sue V. George Gies.

If you have lost a loved one to cancer, please share their first name and an initial for the last name in the comments, and I will add it to the name list above.

Many readers/bloggers here have lost husbands, wives, parents, siblings and dear friends. I know because I read their grieving stories. We’ve even lost the bloggers themselves. I still miss Scotland’s own Mary Smith and her very candid sense of humor.

Several survivors stood up that evening on the telecast. The words “cancer free” were spoken at least 20 times.

I just celebrated the three-year anniversary of my own last chemotherapy session a few days ago. Wow, three years. I remain cancer free.

Bloggers are familiar with Miriam Hurdle, who truly fought for her life back in 2008. Her aggressive cancer was a form of melanoma which grew in several organs. It progressed from stage II to stage IV with many complications. But she too now stands cancer free.

For those who are interested, she wrote a book about her journey, The Winding Road A Journey of Survival. I read it a year ago, and it lays out so many details of her path and her side effects from cancer treatment. Her journey and will to live is truly something. It was also a triumph that her sister Janine survived breast cancer.  Here is a link to Miriam’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Winding-Road-Journey-Survival-ebook/dp/B0B86QWXTN

On the evening of August 21st, the work of an amazing group of “Type A” women educated me. And I wanted to write about them and I wanted to stand with them.

Standing at the door of the institute where I received treatment…wearing a certain new shirt.

17 responses to “Standing Up”

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    Until we become personally involved, it’s easy to understand how things like this pass by with only our little awareness. For me, that did not happen until my mom got cancer. Like you and Miriam, her recovery was aided by a sound support system. The medical profession has made significant progress in the fight against cancer, but we’ve got to keep ringing that bell.

    Congratulations on your third anniversary, and thank you for continuing to beat the drum for cancer research. I’m glad that there are more personal stories and less entertainment with these events.

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    1. I have a feeling that you told me about your mom’s fight Pete; thank you for reminding me. I’m so glad she had the resources and family to become a survivor success story. Yes, this group’s work is very impressive to me. I support them 100%. It dawned on me only after you had left your comment that I should add names of lost loved ones from readers too to my list. Let me know if there is anyone’s name you would like to highlight. First name and last initial. Thank you!

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  2. Personal losses drive us to pay attention. My father and brother both died from cancer, so I submit to medical tests that screen for abnormalities: mammograms and colon screenings along with yearly lab/blood work. I also support friends who are undergoing treatment via Caring Bridge websites, for we know that serious illness is both a physical and an emotional battle.

    Cheers to you for hitting the 3-year milestone, quite an accomplishment. And gratitude for your offer in the Postscript. Thank you for all this, Melanie!
    Ray L.
    Mark L.

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    1. I am honored to add your names Marian, thank you. I am so glad to hear how pro-active you are in your testing. You have strong reasons to do so. I hope it brings you peace of mind. I think Caring Bridge is close to a miracle. It’s such an easy way to share a smile or a laugh or a virtual hug. That is strong medicine!! ♥

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  3. I see you’re using your powers for good! Thank you for this post and making me aware of Stand Up to Cancer. Mwah!

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    1. That’s sweet Jane, thank you. Some things just get me fired up, and this is one of them. 😊🔥

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  4. What a wonderful and powerful reminder of the power of love and contributions to fight this horrible disease that comes in so many forms. My husbands brother recently died from cancer that was actually caused by earlier radiation he received when he returned from Vietnam. Talk about a gut punch. Personally I have known more survivors than losses for which I am profoundly grateful. You-being my latest blessing to have as a survivor and dear friend! Thank you for relaying info on Stand Up to Cancer. I’ve heard of it… now I’m going to support it.

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    1. Wow Pam. I hadn’t heard the cause of your brother-in-law’s cancer. That is heartbreaking and maddening. I’m so sorry. (I had already included him in the names, if that is alright.) Yes, there’s just no question of the ambitious “wins” SUTC has achieved. They are not just collecting money, but are really looking at deeper ways to move the research forward. I am very attracted to that philosophy and wanted to give them support. Thank you for your interest! ♥

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  5. I’m back, Melanie! What Katie Couric did was amazing. I followed Mary Smith’s treatment until her last post. She was brave till the end. The treatment was getting to be intolerable to her. She and I talked. Her last treatment made her very sick and it could only help to prolong her life for a short time. She might not have recovered before she could enjoy life a little bit. She decided not to do the final treatment. I also followed Sue Vincent until her last post when she said she couldn’t even stand up. Both of them were true authors who wrote til their last breath.

    My son-in-law’s mother died of lung/brain cancer – the cancer went to her brain and took her life. Her name is Kathy R. My brother-in-law died of liver cancer. His name is Ming L. My ex-husband died of brain cancer. His name is Cliff B. My sister survived breast cancer. Her name is Janine H.

    I’m finally relaxed a bit after seven months of remodeling our new home. I’ll try to catch up with my blog, reading, and writing. But my grandkids are always my priority. Take care and keep in touch.

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    1. Thank you so much for providing names of your loved ones. I have added them. Oh my gosh, I love that you and Mary were able to talk. I remember many things from her blog; her trip back home to basically say goodbye and her question to readers on whether she should plant bulbs that fall which would bloom in 6 months. She decided to do it, but died before she saw them. That was really a poignant realization for me. She was such a good photographer too. Her last post really touched me with her bravery and dignity. I only started blogging in 2019, so I didn’t cross paths with Sue Vincent, but I’m pretty sure I saw her name on Mary’s blog. I love that you are enjoying your grandchildren so much. ♥ That’s wonderful. Thanks for taking the time to respond Miriam! Please take care too.

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      1. They both had lung cancer. Sue had an accomplished life. Mary was great in sharing about her life.
        Take care, Melanie! 💖

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      2. 💖 Thank you, Miriam!

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  6. Oh Melanie, this post had me in tears. So many losses so hard to bear. I lost it when you mentioned sweet warrior woman Mary Smith, and of course Sue Vincent, two great losses to the writing world. And your kindness offering to add names to your tribute, thank you. As you know, my heavenly angel husband George Gies was stolen from me by that horrid disease. God bless your miracle triumphing the beast. You are a warrior woman. <3

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    1. Good morning Debby. Yes, I truly enjoyed my back and forth comments with Mary. We had information and thoughts to share. For a while, I felt like she was going to beat it and I was crushed when that changed. Thanks also, for nudging my brain that I should add Sue Vincent. Miriam mentioned her here and I forgot to include her. I had never “met” her. I am truly happy to add your husband George to the tribute. You are the blogger who stood out in my mind who had lost someone and was brave enough to write about your grief and love. ♥ I am quite impressed with the SUTC organization and their goals. I wanted to shine a light on them and the rest literally just happened spontaneously for which I am grateful. Thank you!

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      1. Hi Melanie. Thank you so very much for Standing Up and for adding my husband’s name here. It truly touched my heart, again with tears. Hugs xx

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      2. I was honored to add it. He will always be here for future visitors. Hugs. xx

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      3. Thank you my friend. <3

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