A Special Place

Driving onto the grounds of the Biltmore Estate last April was an experience for the senses. As we curved up through the winding road, I opened my window to briefly brush my hand against the hanging, soft pine tree needles lining the path; pointing the way to this majestic North Carolina landmark. Glimpses of azalea bushes flashed through the trees like fireflies, holding the deepest color of magenta I had ever seen. There was a smell of the forest floor mixed into the Blue Ridge Mountain air.

We purchased our tickets and toured the Biltmore House. Truthfully, it was overwhelming, with 250 rooms, many filled with fine artwork from another century. It was easy to feel its history move through me. Sentences formed in my head on how to describe it; maybe writing them down with a vintage fountain pen would help to capture the essence of this stately home’s heritage.

Ultimately, though, the story did not even lay within the walls of the House. As we exited its opulence in search of a late lunch, the eyes of my heart saw something I didn’t even know was there. In the old stables, now converted to dining and shops, there lay the Biltmore Christmas Store. Sure, I’ve seen many stores like these, the kind that are open year-round blinking, enticing someone to enter. Christmas is available 365 days a year! But typically, I resist the call. It used to feel like a mistake to ponder the joys of Christmas in April having already packed up my holiday spirit and placed it among the snow village and ornaments almost three months earlier.

But that was before cancer. When treatment ended after eight long months in the last days of August 2020, like so many before me, I withdrew from the cancer patients’ many responsibilities: the bloodwork, surgery, physical exams, the infusion suite and the daily visits for radiation. I even had a few rounds of nuclear radiation. And I really just wanted to sleep. For a year, if that was possible. I also wanted to forget, but that simply was not. Strange things had happened to my body and my mind. It almost felt like my building blocks of DNA had been stripped down and reassembled differently. I would never be the same. By the time I was feeling physically and emotionally better, it was Thanksgiving. Christmas was right around the corner.

And that’s when something happened one day. As I was placing my snow village townspeople outside various stores and homes, as I was putting the finishing touches on our annual tree, the holiday suddenly transformed. It became a special landing place where I could throw myself and open up every ounce of my inner joy. My Christmas spirit was bursting. I saw how bright the lights on the Christmas tree actually were and I saw the time my family had put into my gifts. Christmas light displays on peoples’ homes were bigger and had more lights than ever before. All my senses and happiness were heightened.

Seeing it through a completely different prism now, I happily walked through the entrance of that Christmas store, delightfully positioned in old stables, quite reminiscent of a Christmas story from long ago. I moved thoughtfully from every table and shelf; every high nook and low cranny to see everything. And then it happened again, right in the middle of April, in the middle of North Carolina, in the middle of this store. A feeling rushed over me. This authentic happiness, this gratitude, started building in my chest. I could literally feel it surging inside. I stood, listening to the Christmas music, holding an ornament I was planning to buy and taking in the most perfect Christmas tree on display. I was surprised by this sensory, magical stirring of a sleeping holiday spirit.

I scooped up a pretty Biltmore kitchen towel, walked over to the store clerk, and made my purchases. Then, I floated outside the store. At that moment, this true happiness could have carried me away on a mountain cloud. While waiting for our friends who drove us there, I beamed. As we walked away from the House towards the car, I repeated “thank you, thank you” to them. I understood they had no idea what they had given me.

During the holiday season, I have heard that The Biltmore House is enchanting; particularly in the evening. 250 candles and 45,000 tree lights light up the rooms strewn with garlands and wreaths and many festive trees. There are blooming red poinsettias in the indoor Winter Garden and 1200 more enhance the hallways throughout. Luminaries line the driveway. Maybe I can return some time to feel that. It would probably be extraordinary.

It was always festive and fun, but Christmas is about gratitude for me now. Maybe it always should have been. My heart has somehow forever linked my joy of recovering with the joy of Christmas. And I can see now that I don’t even need the month of December to reach this special place that sparks my thankfulness. It can come to me with the mere touch of an ornament, the sound of a Christmas song or a glimpse of a Christmas tree, right in the middle of April in a tiny spot inside an old stable.

10 comments

  1. My memories of the Biltmore House are entwined with special occasions too. We toured the House on our honeymoon, much of the opulence lost on us back then. Then we returned when the Dale Chihuly blown glass exhibits graced the landscape. Another time we celebrated a wedding anniversary in the Hotel there and enjoyed the gardens enormously. I bought a garden stake that reads, “Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful,” a creed I live by.

    As your post unfolded, I sensed what was coming, expressed so well: “My heart has somehow forever linked my joy of recovering with the joy of Christmas.” Gratitude wins every time! Thanks for all this, Melanie. 😀

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    • What a wonderfully small world Marian! I’m so glad the Biltmore holds special memories for you too. I would have adored seeing Chihuly pieces scattered within the landscape. (I saw it once in a contained Garden Conservatory – still beautiful, but less scale. ) I just love that I can tap into my well of gratitude anywhere, at any time. The experience was a special one. You’ll have to write about the Biltmore Estate too! 🙂 Thanks for sharing Marian.

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  2. I’ve never been a cancer patient, but I would imagine that going through such an experience would reinforce not taking life’s simple pleasures for granted. I think sometimes people choose between feeling gratitude or thanklessness. I’ve seen people who have few material possessions but a home filled with love, and this seems to give them a positive mindset. The opposite can be true also.

    My wife’s grandfather used to say, “If you’ve got your health, you’ve got everything.”

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    • I had heard that phrase “if you’ve got your health, you’ve got everything” too, Pete when I was growing up. Naturally, being young, it went in one ear and out the other. Now I can see its wisdom. I wrote about this because it was the first time I have ever had a physical reaction to being grateful. I have always appreciated happy things in my life, but never felt that joy pumping through my body, or maybe didn’t recognize it at the time. I guess crying tears of happiness is the same type of physical, grateful response. It was just a moment and a realization that I always have a well of gratitude nearby.

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  3. Melanie this was a wonderfully heartwarming post. The irony of finding “thankfulness in a tiny spot inside an old stable” was not lost on me🥰. We always hear the old adages about the true meaning of Christmas but reading your personal experience of this brought tears to my eyes. Your life was upended by cancer yet it opened wider your path to gratitude. I’m sure you didn’t see that coming when you were in the midst of treatment. This was beautifully written and I will keep this post forever. Merry Christmas my dear friend. I am honored to celebrate the gratitude I have for you this season.

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    • Gosh Pam, I think I can use your words in a title – A Wider Path to Gratitude. I love that. And yes, I couldn’t believe the parallel with the stable, this is why I write non-fiction. Seriously, what were the chances? Thank you for such a kind, glowing comment and a huge Merry Christmas to you and your family as well. ♥

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